What are you driven by – Can you decide?

Do you know how to make a real decision?.. or do you just dip your toe in half expecting to fail..?

What do you choose to be your motivating feeling and emotion?

Is it one to make you move forward.. or one to make you shrink back?

The power of the questions you ask yourself.. whether you want to focus on the negative less inspiring aspects.. or the positive moving forward and growing aspects.. the choice always lies with you, no matter what circumstances arise.

Who is right: the man who thinks he can.. or the man who thinks he can’t?

They are both right. They have both chosen what they think.. and what they think will direct and dictate their behaviours and actions.

How do you want to condition yourself.. Do you want to condition your repetition muscle to put you in a more consistent peak state.. moving you towards getting what you want more freely?..

Or do you want to be conditioned for more of the same old same old..?

Your peak state can inspire and motivate those around you, let alone yourself. It’s wonderful having choices. It’s wonderful being alive. It’s wonderful to connect and live with inspiration.

So the question isn’t “Can you decide..?”.. you can always do that.. you’re doing it every minute of the day.. you’re even doing it right now.

The question is “what will you decide”.. What state are you going to allow to rule you?

Interview with Brian Tracy – Persistence

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This is an interview with Brian Tracy in 2007 regarding the need for persistence whilst not entertaining those people that are like energy vampires, bleeding you dry.

He refers to many business owners that have run at least 17 businesses before they have become a millionaire success.

Now I agree this may not be everyone’s goal, but it does highlight the fact that many of us just give up and fall by the wayside in whatever we’re doing.. whether that’s to do with work, business, social activities, relationships, dealing with less than good healthy habits or even simply building self-confidence.

As with the eventual successful business owners that took 17 businesses to get the right one for them, many things in life you will find will be the same.

You may have tried one or two relationships and found it heart-ache and headache time and again, always seeming to attract or get into relationships that pull you down and pull you apart. As with the 17 businesses, it’s not saying you’ll have to have 17 relationships to get it right, but it does highlight the process, that over time and through experience you can start to uncover clearly what you do and don’t want, what is and isn’t right for you. Whether you’re just lazy and not putting the effort in or the partner you’re with would be much happier in a different relationship just as much as you. Everything takes work and consistent effort, but we must be open to the fact that like the 17 businesses this one might not be the right one for both of you.

The 17 businesses are just like the finding out what you are.. who you are.. and in what way can you make something flourish. And yes it is built and made strong from on all the mistakes and failures you’ve learned from, but I mean really learned from in the past.

There is a saying that defines many things I’ve done and I’m sure you may recognise it too. “INSANITY is doing the same thing time and again, day after day but expecting different results.”

Relationships can be just like that, going for the same things time and again, doing the same things time and again and expecting your partner to act and respond differently, when in the past all this has failed and fell apart. You choose the same kind of guy or girl, you do what you always do and expect it to all turn out different. ARE YOU INSANE?

An easy way to learn quickly and simply is by noting down what does and doesn’t work for you, keeping a daily Journal or Life Book. This can help you break unhelpful habitual habits keep you go round and round making you insane.

The same can be applied to the areas in life that you seem to lack some level of self-confidence in, repeating your age old little stories in your head over and over again like a broken record time and again. Going round in circles can start to make you dizzy.

HAVE A VISION

Be clear on what you want. Where you want to go. Write it out. Keep a Journal and note your experiences and realisations down every day. Remind yourself of a clear vision you’re after, you desire, you want. Become clearer and clearer on that vision in what ever areas of your life you so desire.

Everyday note down and celebrate what you have done that moves you towards your goal, your vision. Don’t criticise yourself or run yourself down, just acknowledge the slightest and littlest efforts you’ve made towards your vision each and every day. Plan out tomorrows next steps and soon you’ll be getting and having it all.

But the key is persistence. The key is not giving up, it is to keep going, to keep clear on where you’re going and what you want. The pathways may change, the terrain may alter along the way, and your vision may become clearer and have a different shape than when you first started but your baby steps once made and noted each and every day, morning and night will soon become strides and bounds.

Your confidence will soar, your self-belief will amplify and your love of life will be something that people will be drawn to.

Is it easy?.. No.. Is it challenging?.. Hell yes.. Is it worth it?.. Only you can find that out for yourself.. but I can say from experience the journey is fabulous.

Just like the 17 businesses, you don’t give in on what you want, what you strive for, you persist, you keep moving with conscious effort. And your Million will be somewhere along the way.. whether your Million is an ideal partner, is getting paid what you’re worth, is sharing and feeling love, is spending quality time with your kids and family, is having holidays exploring exciting parts of the world, even if your Million is having the time to help under privileged kids or feeding the homeless.. only you can know the right vision for you. And your vision will be individual to you and you alone.

Why live another day not knowing REALLY what you want, what your ideal vision is and could be.. To be a success, a REAL success is to just taking one step towards it.

One step of getting your note pad out and thrashing out what your heat and soul desires and yearns for. Tomorrow you can take one more step and move closer to it.

One, two or three steps a day are the foundations of persistence. But those steps are to be taken every day, not 3 days per month or year.

If you really want it all, you can have it all. Be persistent, consistent.. regular small steps over time become leaps and bounds into a vision and a life you can design for yourself. You were put on this planet to live your life to the full, and hold nothing back.

If you live your life to the full you will be sharing a gift that will make a difference not only to you but to everyone you know.

Finding Clarity and Purpose

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“Life will pay whatever you ask of it.”

Clarity is power, the more you’re brain knows what it is looking for it will go for it.

So becoming clear on what is most important to you you give yourself the opportunity to align yourself wholly towards what you want.

Ask yourself intelligently, and ask of life intelligently.

Know what you want clearly.

State it in the present tense as though you already have it.

Make it Specific not general so you pin point exactly what you want. So if it’s a level of income state it in exact figures, if it’s a car state the colour, model, age, mileage, if it’s a love in your life describe him or her in detail including their qualities and values. Be specific.

Make it Measurable so you can know it to be quantifiable and exact, this is an expanded aspect of being specific.

Make it something Evidential so that you can know exactly when you’ve got it.. because this and that is happening in your life. There’s clear evidence that this goal has been attained and is a part of your life.

Make it your Responsibility. Your goal is something you are responsible for attaining, no one else. A goal is not a goal if someone else has to attain it for you.

Make it Timed. Set an exact date on it. “Today is 10th September 2010, and I feel… now that.. I am.. I have..”

Make it Inspirational. If your goal doesn’t inspire you to go for it, it’s not a true goal. It needs to be inspirational to move you. It needs to be inspirational to drive you through any challenges you face along the way.

And finally make it Emotional. Describe all the emotions you’ll be feeling with this goal fully realised and a real part of your life. The more emotionally you can connect to it’s outcome the better.

Be explicitly Clear in exact detail.

But don’t underestimate the need to connect to your reasons WHY.

Why do you want this? What difference will it make? What will your life be like if you do attain it? What will it be like if you don’t go for it and attain it.. in 5, 10 or 20 years time?

Your reason why is that element of inspiration, that element that will keep you moving forward through the challenges and successes along the way.

Clarity and purpose takes a little work. So take some time out. Get out your journal, dig deep.

Imagine what it will be like to have the goal you desire as a reality in your life.

Imagine and visualise yourself living with it.. how you would be within yourself.. how your life would be.. what you would be doing.. what you would be experiencing.. how you would be feeling.. how would you be interacting with others.

Once you dig deep into this, then you can write your goal with clarity and purpose.

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What is courage – what empowers you – lets ask Les Brown

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“Courage is not the absence of fear.. Courage is the judgment that what you want is more important than what you fear.”

This is such an empowering statement. It doesn’t say that you have to wait until you have no fear in your system, it simply says you take action and go for what you want regardless of the fear that’s holding you back.

What is it that drives you.. what inspires you.. what is it you would conquer anything for..?

Watch this video and see if it strikes a cord with you.

The pain of changing yourself – Nido Qubein

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Nido Qubein talks about change being an opportunity.

Does all change come from within? Does all improvement come from some form of change?

Do you hold yourself back through some form of fear on one level or another?

Why does change have to be a scary thing?

Life changes every day.. our body cells change daily and weekly.. but we still hold on with a fear of the unknown..

A fear of believing in our frailties and inadequacies.

What you focus on you get more of. So focusing on negative elements only brings more of the same.

Isn’t it about time that we all focused on our own greatness, and share it with the world.

What is it you’re depriving the world of by being gripped by self-shrinking fear.

There’s a wonderfully simple process for discovering and uncovering your own greatness. For believing in and nourishing it. We all have goals and things we would love to have in our lives, but deprive ourselves of them through doubt and fear.

It has been said a daring few take the step forward. I think we are all the daring few once we take just one step.

You are a success once you take the first step towards a worthwhile goal.

And at the minute my next goal is lunch.. so I’m going to be taking the first step towards the kitchen. 🙂